I heard Jon and Kate (of Jon & Kate Plus 8 fame) filed for legal separation.
I don't like their show because it stresses me out just to watch it. Kate is way too intense for me. I don't know her, so I can't judge her. It is not entertaining for me to watch, so I stopped watching it a while ago.
I am of the age, or maturity, or whatever, that I don't waste time on media that doesn't entertain me. I don't finish boring books, and I change boring television shows. I have better things to do with my time.
Back to the divorce: it makes me sad. I don't like hearing that any marriage breaks up. My sympathy is for the children. First, their parents decide to use in vitro to get pregnant. They desperately wanted children, so many in fact, that they ended up with eight after only two pregnancies. That would be hard enough to explain to young children, and now they have to explain they are getting divorced.
I don't think those kids have a chance. Growing up with cameras in their house, watching their parents' marriage break up. My sympathies and prayers are with those children.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Thursday, June 18, 2009
"At Least You Have Your Kids"
So...more and more I am realizing that I am alone. I am lonely.
I don't have a partner, a spouse, a confidant, etc. blah blah...
(quit yer complainin', I hear you say)
Ok, Ok. When good friends ask how I am doing, I share that I am adjusting to being alone. What really erks me is some people's response:
"Well, at least you have your kids."
What? Like my children are the consolation prize for not having a husband? Like they can somehow fill that void that I have for a partner and a best friend. I firmly believe that your children should never be your best friends. I am sorry, but those women out there who claim that their 16-year old daughter is "my very best friend" are very sad indeed. Really??? You share everything, you tell her everything? I don't think that's healthy or normal.
Granted, I do believe that when children are adults that it is fine to be friends with them. But best friends? I still cringe when I hear my mother talk about anyhthing sexual and my dad in the same sentence. There is a line you just don't cross, and when your children are your very best friends, you've crossed a line that is unhealthy.
Don't get me wrong. I love my kids. I have unconditional love for them and think they are the best kids in the whole wide world. But that doesn't mean that they can hold the place of another relationship. Nor would I want them to feel that way. Then one day (God willing) when I fall in love, and find a partner, my poor kids would feel pushed aside, since they were holding that spot for me.
For the time being, there is a little vacant place in my heart. But it's ok for it to be vacant. Yes, at least I do have my kids, but they have been and always will hold their own special place in my heart.
I don't have a partner, a spouse, a confidant, etc. blah blah...
(quit yer complainin', I hear you say)
Ok, Ok. When good friends ask how I am doing, I share that I am adjusting to being alone. What really erks me is some people's response:
"Well, at least you have your kids."
What? Like my children are the consolation prize for not having a husband? Like they can somehow fill that void that I have for a partner and a best friend. I firmly believe that your children should never be your best friends. I am sorry, but those women out there who claim that their 16-year old daughter is "my very best friend" are very sad indeed. Really??? You share everything, you tell her everything? I don't think that's healthy or normal.
Granted, I do believe that when children are adults that it is fine to be friends with them. But best friends? I still cringe when I hear my mother talk about anyhthing sexual and my dad in the same sentence. There is a line you just don't cross, and when your children are your very best friends, you've crossed a line that is unhealthy.
Don't get me wrong. I love my kids. I have unconditional love for them and think they are the best kids in the whole wide world. But that doesn't mean that they can hold the place of another relationship. Nor would I want them to feel that way. Then one day (God willing) when I fall in love, and find a partner, my poor kids would feel pushed aside, since they were holding that spot for me.
For the time being, there is a little vacant place in my heart. But it's ok for it to be vacant. Yes, at least I do have my kids, but they have been and always will hold their own special place in my heart.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
The Cutest Little VBSers
I have to share this photo of Vacation Bible School.
The big kids love going and have so much fun! But what I love about this photo is that it shows you the adorable little shirt they got for Baby J. I just love that he was included! And he wore his shirt every day, just like the big kids.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
The Unexpected Kindness of Friends
I had a mini-melt down today because I was paying the bills. It happens almost every month. I freak out because of money, then I get really anxious that I haven't found a job. Now, I have to admit, I should be spending more time looking for work. I do apply to positions that look of interest, and look into opportunities that friends present me with. BUT I should be doing more. I need to dedicate a few hours each and every day to this.
Anyway, I had a little melt-down. So I called an old friend and we talked, mainly about job opportunities. I had meant the call to be for networking, but I must have come accross as more desperate and upset than I thought. My friend stopped by after work today and brought me a gift. My friend brought me some money. (as a loan - I will pay it back when I am in a better spot) I thought that was the nicest thing that someone could do for me. Without words, advice, chastising, or expectations, or strings attached, my friend just did what my friend could do. Wow.
Anyway, I had a little melt-down. So I called an old friend and we talked, mainly about job opportunities. I had meant the call to be for networking, but I must have come accross as more desperate and upset than I thought. My friend stopped by after work today and brought me a gift. My friend brought me some money. (as a loan - I will pay it back when I am in a better spot) I thought that was the nicest thing that someone could do for me. Without words, advice, chastising, or expectations, or strings attached, my friend just did what my friend could do. Wow.
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